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It's been a week

January 23rd, 2011 at 08:24 pm

since my last entry. Since then, things have been bad here. Hubby had a huge argument with his mum and basically told me he wants out now. Well I told him I'll need his help saving because our current method of him paying back his mum and not helping me save isn't working. It doesn't help that his mum hasn't acknowledged how much he has actually paid back. But that's not the point. The point is that we both want out. Preferably this year.

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8 Responses to “It's been a week”

  1. Petunia 100 Says:
    January 23rd, 2011 at 08:35 pm 1295814934
    1295814934

    How much does he owe his Mum? Is hubby keeping track of what has been paid and what is still owed?

    Sorry for the tension in your house. Frown

  2. Savings Queen Says:
    January 23rd, 2011 at 09:12 pm 1295817169
    1295817169

    I am sorry to hear about the situation with your husband. I know money problems really take a toll on our relationships. Bless your heart and may God surround and protect both of you as you make this important decision.

  3. rob62521 Says:
    January 23rd, 2011 at 09:58 pm 1295819936
    1295819936

    Sorry things are so tense. Hopefully things have cooled off.

  4. scottish girl Says:
    January 23rd, 2011 at 10:21 pm 1295821315
    1295821315

    Thanks guys. Things have cooled off now.
    We were keeping track of what he'd paid her but she disagreed with how much he'd paid. According to our records, he owes her about £600.

  5. LuckyRobin Says:
    January 24th, 2011 at 01:08 am 1295831333
    1295831333

    Did you pay her by check or by cash? I pay my mom back by check and keep a record of every check number and amount and the date paid in a spreadsheet, so if there is ever any doubt I have proof. My mom isn't difficult about it, but I feel better protecting myself.

  6. TarWalker Says:
    January 24th, 2011 at 03:17 am 1295839064
    1295839064

    I know what your husband is feeling; I've been in the same spot. I end up having an argument and then I tell my husband I want out NOW. Luckily, my arguments haven't been too bad and usually blow over in a day or two.

    I’m really, really glad to see in the comments that it has cooled down. It’s never fun to live in a house where there is tension like that. I wish you luck as you start preparing to move out this year.

    What has to get done in order for you to be able to move out? For us, my husband has to get his dream job, or if that doesn’t happen by the end of this year, some other full-time job with benefits.

  7. scottish girl Says:
    January 24th, 2011 at 06:54 pm 1295895295
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    Lucky Robin: it was cash Frown She even used the line "i've got bank statements" Not that her statements would prove anything cos he physically handed her the money.

    TarWalker: I think we just have to save more, and I want to get rid of debt. We can't afford to buy so we will private let since our local council is no help. A lot of people here think private let is a waste of money but it's better than here. Private let is expensive but we would just have to struggle for a while.

  8. Jerry Says:
    January 28th, 2011 at 10:49 pm 1296254971
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    That is awkward, certainly, but it might be time to look at receipts when he pays her something. 600 pounds is nothing to sneeze at, and disagreements over money can lead to a lot of grief (as you don't need any reminding I am sure). At least with receipts in hand you would have some insurance of knowing what you paid, and being able to back it up. Good luck to you! I hope you are out sooner than later...
    Jerry

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