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How can someone I barely know make me so angry?

March 10th, 2006 at 08:07 pm

I don't know why I'm writing about this since it isn't a money-related issue but never mind. I started talking to my dad about 8 months ago after practically all of my life not having anything to do with him. Anyway he was at my work last week and because he waited ages for me to serve him when i was really busy (he came on a saturday at dinner time when everyone is shopping) he has decided that it should be our final meeting! He never made the effort anyway, if you class shopping in a supermarket as making an effort. He basically said I am not acting grown up because when it was his turn to be served i said "oh ann could have gotten you that" and he said "i'll remember that the next time" and walked away! A few days later I got an email from him saying that I hadn't acted grown-up and i treated him really badly. I emailed him back telling him exactly what I thought: that he hasn't made an effort and that I have and more importantly that I was just doing my job.

Tomorrow at work should be fun if he's shopping. I'm not going to let him get to me, really. Well I'll try. I can't believe him! He doesn't even know me!! My half brother thinks I should apologise because my dad is used to thinking he is right all of the time. Also a lot of people on my dad's side aren't talking to him, which isn't my problem.

Sorry for the rant, I just had to get it off my chest. Trust me, if you were unlucky enough to meet him you would notice what he is like straight away. At least I know now.

6 Responses to “How can someone I barely know make me so angry?”

  1. miclason Says:
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    oh! Sarah! I'm sorry it turned out bad!...You just gave me a "flash-forward" (as opposed to a flashback!) on what a meeting between Alejandra and her dad might look like in the future!...

  2. Money Talk$ Says:
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    I hate that this occured to you. I can see where he wouldn't have wanted Ann to get that for him if he came in to see you, but meeting while you are busy working, he should see that was a bad idea. I don't think an appolgy is warranted just because someone is used to being right all of the time, either.

  3. scottish girl Says:
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    Hi Miclason I hope your daughter's dad doesn't act the way mine is, you never know, her dad may treat her nicely in the future. If he does happen to behave the same way as mine I hope she learns about it quickly so she isn't hurt.

    He is definetly not getting an apology from me. He didn't even get me a birthday card for my 21st and I still spoke to him when he was in shopping, although I really shouldn't have.

  4. LittleGopher Says:
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    I know someone (he's 20) whose father has recently come into his life, and wasn't there for the previous 19 years. He is quite discouraged most of the time with how his father acts. I tell him that maybe this is the best his dad can do, and that, unfortunately, he can't expect much from his father. I remind him that he grew up to be what he is - a good, decent, hardworking person - without the benefit of his father. His success is his own, as well as the mark of those who had a more positive influence in his life.

    You are definitely the bigger person. If he can't appreciate you, then it's his loss. Best wishes to you!

  5. flash Says:
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    I've been through something similar, and I can tell you it hurts and you have every right to be angry. Parents are in a separate category, maybe they shouldn't be, maybe they want their children to be reminded that they are "just people too". But, they aren't just people to their children. You have every right to expect him to be THE adult if need be (although I don't think you sounded childish at all). HE IS THE PARENT.

  6. scottish girl Says:
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    Thanks, almost everyone I have spoken to has said exactly the same thing, that my dad is childish. The only person who doesn't agree is the woman in my work who knows him, she thinks that I hurt his feelings.

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