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Worrying now...

March 7th, 2012 at 11:48 am

I met up with my friend today. She's expecting her second child in a few months. All we spoke about today was baby stuff and I left feeling useless. The amount of things she said that I hadn't even thought about, most of them were just silly but some of them were about the actual labour. She was surprised that I haven't got a TENS machine for during the labour, honestly I hadn't even thought about it. I've been reading up on breathing techniques. I missed the antenatal classes because they clashed with my appointments, and I got a few of the days mixed up, but I have been reading up online. I was supposed to be relaxed after meeting up with her but now I'm worried (and exhausted from spending hours walking about the shopping centre)

To top it all off, I spent more than I'd planned to on lunch. My 3 subway turned into 10 at pizza hut!

12 Responses to “Worrying now...”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Not sure what a TENS machine is? I'm not aware of what that would be equivalent to in the US. I made it through two labors with breathing only. You CAN do it. Labor always ends!! And the toughest part is usually the shortest just before you get to start pushing.

    Practice the breathing ahead of time with your spouce. That is your best bet in my opinion.

  2. scottish girl Says:

    According to my book: "TENS stands for Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation. The machine gives out pulses of electrical energy which help prevent pain signals from your womb from reaching your brain" However, it may only help during the first half hour of labour.

    I've spoke to hubby and we're going to start practice breathing techniques. At least I'll feel better knowing I've practiced.

  3. ceejay74 Says:

    Have you had a tour of the hospital's birth center? I found it helpful because then when I was being shuffled from room to room, person to person, I more or less knew what was happening. Also I knew my hospital's staff had certain practices they tried to adhere to, so I felt comfortable asking for certain things. Including a lactation consultant; if you're planning on breastfeeding, it's really helpful to get one so they can tell you whether the baby is latched on properly.

    Even if you don't have time for a tour, maybe you could call and ask if you could at least speak with someone from the birth center, to go through their basic procedures and get a better sense of what to expect.

    I was terrible at breathing. They kept telling me to breath deep through the contraction, but every time one hit, I would start breathing really shallow gasps. The only thing that worked for my pain was the epidural shot. Smile

  4. ceejay74 Says:

    Oh, and DON'T worry! There are doctors, nurses and family who will look out for you. I didn't feel nearly prepared enough when I got to labor, and I'd been taking classes, reading a ton online, etc. When it happens, it won't be like you expect if you did try to plan it all out. Everyone muddles through somehow. Smile

  5. creditcardfree Says:

    You'll feel so much better having practiced...even if it feels strange doing when it is not needed. Just relax as much as you can and know that women have been give birth forever!!! Stay positive. I think you'll be fine without the TENS machine.

  6. MonkeyMama Says:

    You certainly don't need any machines or anything to have a baby. Wink You will be fine!

    I think knowledge/preparedness is good, for sure, but balance that with the knowledge that the Doctors/nurses see it every day and will be able to help you. & I things rarely go "by the book" - you just have to be as relaxed and "open for any scenario" as possible.

  7. CB in the City Says:

    A What?? I had two babies without machines and without drugs. As women have done for centuries. I'm sure you WILL have drugs -- the reason I didn't is a long story -- but just know that you will be taken care of just fine by practiced, caring professionals. DON'T WORRY!!!!

  8. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    I happen to have a TENS machine, and I think it could have helped me in labor, now that I think of it.

    I've never heard of them for labor, but it makes sense. With "back labor" the muscles of your lower back may tense up and ache to high heaven. That is one of the things a TENS device is supposed to be for: breaking the spiral of muscle tensing leading to more muscle tensing.

    I don't think everyone necessarily gets that kind of pain anyway.

    Maybe your friend would loan your hers.

    CB, it is no more a scary machine to use while in labor than a CD player or radio might be. It's a compact little thing and the user is totally in control of it, unlike, say, a fetal monitor or even an automated blood pressure cuff.

  9. helen Says:

    You have 7 pounds 60 pence in your emergency fund and you're having a BABY?

  10. ThriftoRama Says:

    Sounds like your friend is one of those hyper-over reacting to having a baby people. Don't let her rope you in! I have a 2 year old and a 3 year old and didn't have one of those machines! As my friend said to me when I was preg the first time. "You rise to the occasion," and that just about summed it up.

  11. LuckyRobin Says:

    I didn't take any classes. I watched a few vids and I learned the breathing from a book. It didn't help. The epidurals did. Humankind's greatest gift to women. Oh, and having a hand to squeeze and a great labor nurse each time. Honestly, I think we panic far too much in today's world. Relax, ask for the epidural if you need it, and take a few, deep, soothing breaths of the non-lamaze kind.

  12. Jerry Says:

    Please do not worry about this other person's birth, or any of the thoughts that her ridiculous behaviours lead to... this is YOUR birth, and YOUR baby, and you can manage it very well with the help of your health care team. My wife did very well with her preparations and classes and managed excellently with no medication for either of our babies, and others choose to have epidurals or c-sections. Both can work, it rather depends on the individual. The nice thing is that with your NHS health insurance you don't need to worry about things. It will work out well, and it will not be a financial stressor in that regard. Good luck to you!

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