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February Already?

February 1st, 2015 at 04:07 am

I typed in the title of my blog post, and it's of no surprise that it came up as I typed, so I've used it before. Apart from April when I'm back to work, February is my least favourite month, at least for this year. I turn thirty and I'm not looking forward to it. If I could skip it, I would.

DH is not on board with not getting me a present and not acknowledging this birthday. In fact, it ended up in an argument last night. I'm to blame for it. I said I didn't want a cheesecake like we spoke about because it costs too much. Then I decided I didn't want anything and I told him not to bother. We eventually agreed just to get a couple of slices each instead of buying a whole cheesecake. Yes, we argued over a cheesecake. But the real issue is money. I don't want to throw it away.

6 Responses to “February Already?”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Thirty is the new twenty, Sarah! We live so much longer now, that thirty is still young. Arguments over money are never fun. I think you made a good compromise in buying less cheesecake for your birthday.

    Something you might think about is whether this not spending and wanting to save really is about needing to feel secure financially. It is often the case with women. If this is true for you, you may explain that to your husband because that may make more sense to him than just saving to save.

  2. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    My bf was a bit annoyed with me when I changed my mind about what I wanted to do for my birthday too - at first I had said I wanted to eat at this neat restaurant in a city about an hour from us .. but then I got to thinking about his shoulder issues, and changed my mind to say let's just make dinner and eat in. He thought it was about money, but after I explained to him my reasoning, he was okay with it.

  3. snafu Says:

    Sarah, any brand of sweetened, condensed milk and any brand of cream cheese can create the easy Eagle recipe for Cheesecake.
    I used to make condensed milk as the branded version is more expensive. You can make your own crust with crushed graham wafers & butter or margarine.

    You will need to price out the cost of slices and the total cost of ingredients to make. It may be to much to consume as it's very rich and very caloric. Will your mom or friends be joining you for dessert?

  4. MonkeyMama Says:

    I hope trying to explain it in another way would help - as mentioned by the others.

    There are some people who just can not fathom not spending money or celebrating birthdays in a big way. I go through this with some relatives every year. You would think after so many years (and decades) they would just get over it! It's less about what the birthday girl wants and more about what everyone else wants or expects. I don't know how many other ways to assert that I am happy with how we celebrate. Is there anything special your spouse can do for you that would not cost money? Like give you a free afternoon without the kids, or a nice massage or something like that? So he feels he is doing something nice for you?

  5. scottish girl Says:

    @CCF - You're probably right. I do want to feel secure financially.
    @FT - I will try and explain to him.
    @snafu - my mum will be there.
    @MM - I'm working on thinking of something he could do that's free, even taking the kids out for an hour would be a break for me

  6. LuckyRobin Says:

    I turn 45 this month, but I don't care. It's just another number to me. I'm much more excited about going out to dinner with my DH and without our kids on our upcoming 20th wedding anniversary in March. To me that is an achievement to be celebrated, but just by us. My birthday is just my birthday. All I did was get born and that was my mom's effort, not mine. LOL

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